It takes no effort to say that I am a Virgin for an unwed person but why it feels so hard when it comes to open up about their sex life. I totally agree that it’s too private to discuss but still, I observed that even our peer ones hesitate to open up on their sex life.
Let us take an example of one of the famous talk shows “Koffee with Karan” where Salman Khan said that he is still a Virgin. His words might have sounded much like that of Pun intended but this shows how easily he dodged the question. Another guy who made a debut in the show, Kapil Sharma also easily got away with the question by making some humorous comment on it. The question is why to make so many excuses or to get away with the question when lawfully premarital sex is not a crime.
I am not asking every unwed person to come to the podium to discuss or open up about their sex life but rather I am wondering why it is so hard to answer. There can be several reasons. It might be because of the belief that premarital sex is bad which I consider highly dangerous as there is no sound reasoning to it or they want to keep it so private that they don’t want to be seen speaking about it. Some girls feel that their virginity may cost them their marriage; to them, I would say "Dear Girls, those who have concern over your virginity, do not deserve to be in your life."
Many consider premarital sex as a bad practice, they say you want Sex- Fair enough, Get married first..! But they somehow overlook the fact that a Sex-Driven Marriage can make a poorly grounded relationship. Marriage for sex is insane. Sexual compatibility is an important component of a strong marriage.
Let me bring another word called “Temptation” to the discourse; the temptation to have sex now may be greater than ever because people are delaying marriage until their late 20s or 30s. So there’s nothing inherently harmful in premarital sex.
Another approach can be to discuss the pros and cons of premarital sex. We can build a society where we can provide sex-education that will spread awareness to minimize unwanted pregnancy and STDs. Nature has given us this adult body and we can go along with our bodies as we want to. I am not promoting premarital sex but rather I would like to bring attention to all that it is not sin, it’s just a tradition and the sin of premarital sex is one of those rare problems that you can simply define away.
I remember Mahesh Bhatt once saying that there are only two kinds of people on Earth, one who deals with adultery and another one who thinks of adultery and if anyone says that he or she belongs to the third category, then it’s total balderdash.
To me, another factor would be that an unwed person wants to keep it very private hence may not want to speak up openly. On this, I would say that we cannot deny the fact that we are so much influenced by the western culture that we are adopting almost everything, from food to music to clothing to thoughts et cetera et cetera ..! We are very much influenced by the western way of living. Therefore I think we should be bold enough to speak up on anything and let people judge or shit over it but the fact that remains is- Who cares..! We have to rise above the stereotype.
In the end, I would say it’s your life and it’s your choice so Do IT Well.!